How do you know when it is time to make a change in your life, to change a behavior, to switch gears and move in a healthier direction, to let go of a relationship, to notice your pain?  The first pillar of finding this discomfort in your being, in your behaviors is to slow down, to do less and actually take time to notice what is happening.  This step of noticing is mindfulness —paying attention to what is going on in this present moment and examining it closely.  Can you stop and pay attention and allow yourself to be curious instead of judgmental, critical or self-blaming?




This brings us to the second pillar of personal transformation: Self-Compassion.  Finding a way to be kind to yourself and patient and loving when you are struggling with a difficult situation, feeling a lot of pain, moving really fast to get through something, facing a shadow part of yourself rearing its ugly head is self-compassion: bringing in care to yourself when you are struggling.  This also takes being willing to stop and notice what is happening, taking that first pillar of mindfulness to the next step of being kind and caring to yourself when you totally need it — instead of hoping you’ll get kindness from someone else soon.  You can give it to yourself and hold yourself gently as you let your feelings arise and fall.

When you create this kind of healing container for yourself with these first two pillars: Mindfulness and Self-Compassion, you are ready to utilize the 3rd Pillar of Personal Transformation:  IFS.  Internal Family Systems Therapy is a healing roadmap and deep dive into yourself and all the parts of you that keep you moving through each and every day.  It’s a total path to self-awareness and self-love and along the way you get to heal yourself too.  It is a safe way to get an intimate connection with your feelings and your behaviors and to love yourself into a healthier place!   You can learn about IFS from books and many resources, but the best way is to engage in working with an IFS Therapist or Coach who can empower you and hold you in Self-Energy and Self-Love until you can do it for yourself.  You can also explore it in a safe container like my retreat.

And you can explore and develop all three of these 3 Pillars of Personal Transformation at my FALL RETREAT this October 28-31 and again  October 26-30, 2022.  Can you give yourself four days and three nights to just listen and allow these tools to manifest?  Imagine what kind of shifts might bubble up and what layers might be lifted?

In addition, all three of these Pillars are also explained through the stories in my Memoir: A Midlife Voyage to Transformation. When you read this book you will be able to understand more how to feel your feelings and experience them in your body. You will also be able to learn about the 5 Stages of the Midlife Voyage to Transformation.  See what stage you are on in your midlife voyage right now—It will help you get so much more out of the retreat.

Are you ready?  This is the moment to take action for yourself  and start with purchasing my book HERE.    Watch for my WORKBOOK/ BOOK GROUP GUIDE to A Midlife Voyage to Transformation coming out in 2022.